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What is the reason for our remaining alive? For what have we come here? Day after day we are being asked about the sense and purpose of our lives. And many of us keep on searching for answers. Will we be able to achieve happiness? That is also a question that forces us every day to find out its answer. What happens if the answer to those queries is quite uncomplicated? What if it is all about ONE thing? Bonding. The secret of happiness is explained perfectly in the stimulating voice of Masami Sato in the excerpt of her book, ONE.

What are we searching for?

There are a host of things that we do in our lives.

But have we ever thought about why we do what we do? What are we really looking for?

The world now is full of billions of us coming from different races, countries, religions and beliefs all doing different things. We all look different and act quite differently. We have different interest and attitude from others. We communicate differently often using different languages. We have different desire and feelings.

Still, if there could be ONE thing that we are ALL trying to get, what would that thing be?

While I travelled all over the world, I did ask people one simple question, “What would you like to achieve in your life? What do you really want?”

At first, it looked as if people were in search of different things, as they gave casual answers like “A nice partner”, “Good job”, “My own house”, “A loving family”, “A perfect mate”, “More money”, “Financial Freedom”, “Peace of mind”, or “Meaning of life”. There were other similar answers as well.

I noticed that while some of these were temporal, and more related to day-to-day needs, others were of a more spiritual nature. We yearn for temporal desires because we do not as yet have it, or don’t feel that we have it yet. As different from this, spiritual desire is not about getting things we do not have. It is about a ‘feeling’ we look for, which does not end no matter what we manage to achieve at every moment of our life.

If we take off the temporal desires from the list and look only at the permanent desires, it is clear that all we want is to continue experiencing positive feelings like exhilaration, enjoyment, encouragement, motivation, kindness, love, happiness etc. - in another way, we want to remain happy.

Delightfulness

Delightfulness is a state of emotion that every one us are longing to experience. Every one of us may define it in a different way. We may even evaluate it differently. We may sense it at varied levels of intensity. But without doubt, we have something in general when delightfulness comes to us. And when we understand this secret about delightfulness, we hold the knowledge to become more delighted, and to make others around us too feel the same sensations.

This life, that we live, is a mystery. All of us like it in our own different ways. We may also dislike it in different ways. We may wonder about it. We may cherish it. Or we may just accept it in an offhand manner. But what is the ultimate purpose of this life? What if the mystery of our existence is at hand? What if its revelation actually brings us happiness and fulfilment when we come face to face with it?

What if the essence of the aim of our lives, and its joys, is as simple as this:

It is all about connection.

Bonding is everything

Everything depends on bonding. All things are part of some other things. A look at our own lives would say it all. Then we will begin to see the real purpose of life.

Why do we do anything, ANYTHING at all, in life as humans?

It is mainly because we want to bond more and more. We make fiends to feel bonded. We get married for bonding with another person in a firm and lasting manner. We raise a family to feel even more bonded. We go out and meet people to bond well with them, not only for getting advantages out of that bonding, but also to feel more bound to the world.

We buy nice clothes and go to a hairdresser to feel more connected to our sense of aesthetics and to our own physical beauty. We eat a variety of food to feel more connected to our sense of taste and smell. We dine out to feel connected to the people we share the meals with. We buy mobile phones and computers to connect with others and the world. We read newspapers and magazines to stay connected to what is happening and what others are doing and feeling. We study and learn to connect with what others know and value.

Every thing that we do is to satisfy the need of keeping alive relationships. It is our relationship to our own body that makes it imperative that we eat and sleep. Because of our relationship to our senses, we are asked to do things to satisfy the demands that body makes. If we ignore the demands that body makes, we have to bear the resultant aches and distress. And above our mundane needs, we yearn for another relationship - a relationship to our very existence - a relationship to our purpose. And without that connection, it is vacant. Just like the blankness so many of us feel when we have no relationship even to ourselves. That is just not the way our lives are supposed to be lived.

Connection is powerful, and yet it’s fragile and tender

When the bonds in a relationship lose strength, we go in for a separation, divorce, disagreements, judgement, and bitterness. It never feels good to lose the bonding. Still, it possible to be in love with someone today, and totally disconnected and bitter towards him tomorrow. And this change of feelings can happen just by the flicker of an eyelid. And the eyes might be yours or theirs!

When the bonds are not there

When the bonds are not there, we perceive problems all over. We start seeing disparities and obstacles. We begin passing judgement on others and reproaching them. We blow up, focus on and strengthen those things that we perceive as problems. When that happens, we might even turn all that negativity inwards and cause ourselves hurt and injury. We cannot feel completely happy when we have severed the bonds with even just one thing.

Bonding: the Secret to Happiness

What if we are looking at the whole idea from the other end? When we do it, we realize this simple reality: we cannot feel miserable when the bonds are strong. It is just not possible!

Try to feel grouchy when we have a good relationship with the people around us and smiling and sharing things completely. Even when we have ‘problems’ in life, we can still smile together and feel delighted when we are bound together in a good relationship. At the same time, it is hard to be happy if we do not have that edifying relationship.

Relationship: Our Life .

Relationship is the core of everything. That is what life is. Relationship.

Everything is a unified whole of smaller units. Everything combines together to form a bigger unit; the way our bodies are a fusion of smaller entities like atoms, molecules, cells and organs.

Our acts and options also is an expression of the need for a relationship. We are meant to continuously find out ways to relate to each other and to a higher objective.

Connection and Religion

Some of us opt to be part of various religions to feel better bonded. This bonding that they seek could be to God. It may be to the people with the same convictions. When we share a similar credence, there is a greater feeling of being bound to the people in that group. More awarding and handing over takes place among people who are feeling strong bonds with each other.

Bonding and Business

People start a business to feel a stronger relationship to themselves by having better mastery over their destiny. But quite often in the world of entrepreneurship, there is a greater sense of isolation especially when we start seeing other enterprises as rivals, staff as devices and customers as a source of income. With all that, the main reason for getting into the business was to establish a relationship. So why should we cause any secluding at all? Maybe in an ideal world, all enterprises worked in another way, but jointly.

Bonding and Wars

Some of us even create arguments or wars to experience some sense of ‘victory’ or supposedly a greater sense of security and significance. But ironically, this rebounds. The moment we ‘win’ the battle, we are actually more disconnected from others. We now need more security to protect ourselves from being attacked by others. We somehow end up being more insecure and afraid. We can’t laugh at this because it actually happens to almost every one of us in different ways.

It could be the disagreements we have with the people around us. It may be the wrong assessment we make when we feel that something or someone is not right. When we make an attempt to be the only one to succeed, we can never succeed in the real way - we feel not connected. We can really enjoy the success when we succeed along with others. Then we will feel the strength of the relationship.

Despite the myriad ways in which we communicate our wants, everything we do is to fulfil the longing we have to feel and have strong bonds.

The full sense of a bonding is realized only through our heart. We can bond with anybody when we are truly concerned about them and feeling that bond with them. If we are conscious of this, giving life to that required state of mind is really easy, uncomplicated and a pleasure. Then we would actually feel more delight and joy.

Life is just like a game. We experience things and do things in a game but fundamentally, the aim of any game is to enjoy. It is not about doing things or having things. When the game finally ends, the winners are only the ones who enjoyed the game. Not the ones who had more at the end. The results and outcomes of a game we play don’t affect our true life. But if we lost all our friends to play with during a game just because we wanted to be the winner in this round, would it lead us to the real winning game?

It is easy to make out this in the background of competing in sports, but we often do not realize it in the sports and games of real life. We forget so fast that life is also a form of sports.

We have no idea when this game began and when it would be over, all that we know is that it commenced in the past and that it will be over one day. When finally the umpire blows the whistle to stop the game, we can simply say, “Wow, it was a lot of fun. Let us play once again!”

In this play called life, the aim of the play is to ‘bond.’ We can keep bonding until we all merge to become one. It is the one way to perpetually feel bonded to our rationale - the feeling of joy and pleasure. We cannot afford to have the bonds to anything weakened or reject and decide even one thing if we are to reach the state of complete bonding.

Life is as easy as that. There is only ONE secret.

And the secret is to connect.

To turn into ONE

To relish.

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The internet has gone from a fun toy to an absolute necessity. The world is a much smaller place thanks to the way the web has changed the way we communicate with each other. We can interact with almost anyone almost anywhere.

Online dating has also become popular, especially in the last few years. Thousands of couples that met online get married each year, and scores more have found good relationships through the power of the internet. One reason for this success could be that the internet is overall a very safe place to meet someone.

But, first people need to learn how to be safe when interacting with people online. These steps will help you to stay safe and have an enjoyable dating experience.

Following your intuition is the most important thing you can do. We all have this natural psychological protection system, and we need to learn to trust it. If you feel that something isn’t right, trust your instincts.

When you do meet someone on line, you may be able to talk, chat and email them, but you do not really know that person until you meet them face to face. Additionally, the person on the other computer may or may not be who they say they are. Take time to get to know who you are interacting with, and don’t rush into anything.

There are plenty of online dating sites out there to choose from, and finding one that has email accounts for their members will make you safe. They are great tools to communicate with people while maintaining your anonymity.

DonŐt ever give out any personal information to people you meet, and try and avoid using your real email address or phone number. Also, try and avoid telling them any kind of personal information about where you live or work until you get to know them first.

Once the time comes to actually meet the person for the first time, doing it in a public place is important for your safety. Coffee shops or a restaurant or even a park are great places to meet and talk and get to know one another. Just remember, don’t give your real address right away, and if they give you a ride, have them pick you up and drop you off somewhere other than your house.

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You wake up one morning and realize that your relationship that you thought would last a lifetime has soured. What on earth happened? You stop and think, soon realizing that neither of you are talking. Oh yeah, you may say words to each other, but you aren’t communicating what you are really thinking and feeling.

Every couple has their rough spots in the first few years, but if you don’t talk about them and deal with them, they will only get worse. If you don’t learn communication in the early years, don’t expect things to get better. They will only get worse without communication.

So, you realize you have a problem. You decide that you need to start communicating with each other. How are you going to do that?

When a couple decides to go to counseling or therapy together, the are basically asking for a referee so they can have a decent conversation. Why would two people who love each other need a referee? Well often, if a couple is talking about something that is highly emotional to them, voices can get raised and the conversation heated. A referee (counselor or therapist) can prevent things from getting to far out of control.

You may think that the therapist has done nothing but sit there listening to you two talk, but they may have done more than you realize. They have kept things from turning into a verbal war.

It is helpful to have a therapist or counselor who will give sound advice, but the best thing they could possibly do for you as a couple is to get you talking to each other again. If you can begin communication again, your relationship will likely last, and will not end in divorce court.

The problems that a couple are having may range from petty annoyances to moral issues. The most important thing is to talk about it openly and honestly, even if it is uncomfortable.

If you refuse to communicate with your partner, eventually your problems will seem bigger than what you can deal with and you will feel compelled to terminate the relationship. Keep talking and you can work things out.

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Breaking up with a boyfriend is never easy. It’s hard to let someone go, especially if they were an important person in your life. Finding out how to get ex boyfriend back isn’t that hard, there are few strategies you can employ to try to recapture his attention.

Usually, the best way to recapture your former flames affection is to somehow see him again. After a breakup your ex and you probably don’t see each other as often as you used to. If you aren’t in any type of communication, and you aren’t seeing each other, it’s hard to find a way back into his heart. Your best bet is for him to see you again, whether it’s in the flesh or online.

Getting him to notice you is the key. You want to stand out in a way he’s never noticed before. You could post pictures of yourself online on a social networking site with a new haircut or makeover. If he sees you looking better than when you were together, this will make him crave you again.

Or, you can post pictures of you online out having fun without him. Surround yourself with fun girls and good looking guys, and make him jealous. Plan excursions with your friends to places you think he might be, and make sure you are always laughing and having a good time. Seeing you moving on is sometimes all it takes for him to want you back.

When you are in a relationship, your friends become his friends, and his friends become yours. Keep this friendship with his buddies alive after a breakup. You never know when he might be around, and if his friends are constantly talking about how fun and cool you are, he’ll hear it. Plan to invite them out on exciting dates in the city, or have them over to house parties. He’ll hear from them how much fun he’s missing out on.

You and your ex did a lot of things together. You had hobbies and plans, routines and normal places you’d hang out. Don’t stop a hobby just because you broke up. If the two of you worked out at a gym together, keep going there. You’ll be bound to see him sometime, and when he’s reminded of all the things you had in common, he might be more likely to take you back.

Sometimes it takes more than just a chance encounter to recapture his affections. Making him jealous may not be enough. This next suggestion is for use only if your other encounters haven’t worked. You could always try the sympathy card to get him back. There’s no need to lie, but you could always embellish on an emotional need. Maybe you had an especially rough day at work, and you need someone to talk to about it with. Sympathy can only go so far, so use it wisely, however, sometimes it’s all it takes to get back with him.

Figuring out how to get ex boyfriend back can be a major problem you think about over and over. Obsessing isn’t the answer. You need just a few, strategic moves, and if they work you’ll be back to the relationship you formally had. Besides, if you take these suggestions, such as making yourself over, you may find you actually feel better without him. But, if he’s a worthy candidate, it’s never to late to try and win him back.

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The biggest thing to remember is that women want to feel like the center of your world. They want to be treated like a queen, and they want to feel valued. Men often forget that these simple things will take you far in the dating world.

Prove to women that chivalry is surely not dead. Look back to the earlier generations where men treated women with the utmost respect and always made sure their needs were taken care of. Open the doors for her, help her get out of the car, pick up the check next time you eat out. You will be amazed at the positive responses from women.

Hygiene is a key factor when trying to attract women. Make sure your breath is fresh; nothing turns a woman off more than bad breath. Make sure you have breath spray or mints if you aren’t somewhere where you can brush. Make sure your clothes are clean, appropriate, and you are well kept looking.

Let a woman know how attractive she is. If you think she is beautiful, tell her! Women love compliments from the opposite sex, it will melt their hearts. Flattery definitely helps win a woman over.

Observe a woman and learn her likes and dislikes. If you pick up on these things, it will help in the future. What is your lady’s favorite beverage? Does she order the same thing for lunch? What is her favorite color? Does she like a certain flower?

Take the time to listen and pick up on the tiny hints on what she loves and try your hardest to use these hints to make her feel special and fulfill these desires for her. You will go far in the dating world, and attract the women you are looking for with these simple tactics.

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There are so many books, conventions, and special newsletters out there on the best way to attract women, land the woman of your dreams, and so forth and so on and all of them boil down to one main observation: Confidence.

All else being equal, it’s the assured guy which will win each time all else being equal. That means you want to groom and dress correctly and look after all the other basics from private hygiene to making a good livelihood. The basics will get your foot in the door give you a chance but they are by no means what will seal the deal. That’s the reason why they’re called basics…

But naturally, life isn’t fair it isn’t equal. Folks are not equal. Everyone has different strengths and weaknesses. And confidence goes a long way towards leveling out your weaknesses while highlighting your strengths.

Naturally, confidence itself is a strength. So how it is possible to get it if you do not have it already?

By practicing. There’s actually no other way. You must unlearn what you have learned about yourself, and about your strengths and weaknesses.

Nobody is born assured. ( If they are , they are just born lucky. ) But everybody learns some measure of confidence, sooner or later. You needn’t join the regiment or Navy or have magical one-in-a-million experiences ; you only need to practice thru selective confidence-building measures that prime your cortex for success.

Easier said than done, of course but the harder it is to do, the more effective it is going to be once done. Believe that.

And, lest it be mistaken, let it be noted now that confidence isn’t the same as arrogance, which is sometimes used to disguise fear, insecurity, and doubt. And there is no faster turn-off than arrogance with most women. So learn confidence to avoid arrogance and you can write your own how-to book in the form of your awfully life, a life well lived!

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If you are looking for ideas for a summer vacation to enjoy with friends and family, consider going to the beach. This is a great way to recover from the stress of daily life!

Maybe you already go to the beach nearest you quite frequently, and are looking for a unique getaway. No problem! Look around the country or globe for beaches you’ve never been to. Chances are, there are many that are just a few hours away by plane or car.

Looking for a romantic getaway for your honeymoon or anniversary? Consider going to Hawaii. Maui has amazing beaches that are miles long. They also have activities that you won’t find at home!

The Virgin Islands are another favorite of mine. My spouse and I went there for our ten year anniversary, and it truly took our breath away. I can’t imagine a better vacation!

If you are looking for something a little more economical and closer to home, try California. California has many beaches available. The beaches in California are also known for their activities, so if you have children you’ll appreciate all of the great things they can participate in.

Some of the better known attractions in California include Sea World and the San Diego Zoo, but there are many others. Huntingdon is one of the best beaches in my opinion, and my family and I visit almost every year.

You’ll want to know before heading out on vacation if the resort is most frequently visited by families or by couples. If you don’t have children and are heading out on your honeymoon, you may not want to be around a bunch of children on your vacation!

Some beaches offer attractions on certain days, so be sure to look into this before booking your trip so you can get in all of your favorite activities!

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Do you always dread having to book a family vacation? All the arguments about who wants to go where and who wants to do this and that, trying to please everybody is hard and can be a real chore; but it does not always have to be that way though! We all have a different idea of what makes a family vacation perfect, it would be a sad place if everybody liked the same things don’t you think?

As long as you can relax and have some fun, whilst having plenty to occupy yourselves, you should be okay; this is where the United States comes in! There are plenty of great resorts in the United States to suit everybody’s taste.

As long as the vacation is affordable, then things should be okay, if you are looking for ideas on some vacations, here are a few to help.

A survival holiday in the wild could be what you are looking for; you do not necessarily need to spend a fortune on buying all that camping equipment.

Why don’t you just check out the National Parks, they always have campsites that you can use, and they do not cost a fortune either, you could even attempt to provide for yourselves by searching for your own food in the woods, there are always plenty of edible plants and berries around that you could use.

A little research beforehand could prove invaluable, you could try making your own poles and try catching fish for your meals, brush up on what edible plants can be found in the wild and try to find some yourself, cooking your own meals that you picked yourself always seem to taste better than the ones that you had to buy,

Try living as the Native Americans did all those years ago, fending for yourselves can be educational as well as fun.

Why not plan a picnic at one of the many great historical sites that America has to offer, instead of an organised tour you could plan your own, imagine eating your packed lunch whilst enjoying the view from the side of the Delaware river.

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If you have been on a number of dates, but nothing seems to work out for you, you may want to ask yourself whether you are basing your behavior on misunderstandings. Often, the informal rules of behavior will change but the beliefs about what is and is not right will not change to keep up. You may be following myths for behavior that are hurting your dating chances. Let’s compare myths with reality.

Myth: People who talk about themselves on a date will come across as arrogant and narcissistic.

Reality: You have to talk about yourself, how else is your date supposed to get to know you? You don’t want to monopolize the conversation and talk about nothing but yourself, but including information about you is a crucial part of making a good first impression.

You can be sure to balance information about yourself with questions that encourage your date to provide information about themselves as well. Asking questions is also a valuable way to signal interest. By expressing interest in the other person, as well as providing information about yourself, you show that you are open to intimacy and are interested enough to share things about yourself.

Myth: Being friends with someone first makes it easier to start a successful relationship.

Reality: Not true! It seems like it should be easier to develop a relationship with someone you already know well, but in reality it becomes harder to do so. The familiarity and sense of being comfortable with the person works against excitement and anticipation needed for romantic feelings to develop.

Myth: When you are out on a date, order a salad. This shows your date that you take care of yourself.

Reality: Ordering a salad when on a date can backfire. First, if you order something you don’t actually want, you are not showing your date accurate portrayal of yourself. Be honest with your date about who you are, but don’t go overboard and overeat either.

Also, you don’t want the other person to think that you are going to be fussy, restrained, and picky about things. You want to come across as unafraid to be yourself, and to satisfy your needs.

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When you get ready for a date, you will likely spend several hours deciding what to wear and otherwise getting ready. During this process, be sure to carefully consider your outfit. If you choose the wrong clothing, you may scare off your date and all of your other preparations may be for nothing.

Remember: your clothing choice is a message. What are you trying to tell your date? Especially on the first date, we don’t know one another very well so are looking for clues as to the other person’s personality and traits. Early judgments seem to be snap judgments. Keep this in mind, and use it to your advantage.

Avoid some of the worst wardrobe choices, listed below:

1. Over-glitziness: Don’t dazzle your date with an outfit covered in shiny, glittery baubles, metallic fabrics, and trendy accessories. Your outfit should give them an idea about your personality and tastes, but should not look like you stole it from a Vegas casino employee. Keep things simple and tasteful.

2. Precious clothing: You want to put forward a youthful but adult, and classy, demeanor. Avoid anything that is fluffy and frilly and overly cutesy.

3. Tomboy clothes: You will want to play up your femininity on a date. Now is not the time to slip into your overalls, your boyfriend jeans, or your basketball shorts.

Your date is on a date with a woman, and this is by choice. Don’t wear clothing that looks like he could reasonably borrow it. This is not attractive.

4. Visible undergarments: If your undergarments show, this is a serious wardrobe mistake. Don’t wear clothing that reveals so much that the casual observer can tell what color panties you are wearing. While your date may have the opportunity in the future to see these items, showing them casually is blatant rather than seductive. This is not a message that you want to send to a date you hope to develop a relationship with.

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